We started this board a few years ago when my kids were complaining that I always change the rules. I found this calendar at the thrift store and repurposed it to contain every rule that is important for the boys to keep. I wrote in permanent marker so that I couldn’t change them which made the boys happy. In my defense I don’t feel like I was always changing the rules, I just changed how I said them sometimes. We keep this posted so I can refer to a rule that may have been broken and give them an extra chore. I keep track of deep cleaning that needs done and post one of those chores on the fridge with a magnet clip that has that kid’s name on it. That kid has no privileges until the extra chore is done. Our basic privileges are electronics, friends and going places.
When I wrote the rules I tried to state them in a positive way such as, “Only nice jokes” instead of, “Don’t say mean jokes”.
This system has been a source of calm in the boys because we all know what to expect. Rarely do I have to add a rule but when I do I make sure the boys understand it and are ready for a consequence if they go against it. Some of the rules are more detailed than the short version on the board such as, ” Electronics OK after 4. They turn off at 8.” The boys know that this does not mean they can sit down to TV for hours. We can decide to watch something as a family after 4 but they will never expect to watch something before that. I also explained to them that the reason we don’t have computers, phones, and TV on after 8 is so our brains can wind down and be ready to sleep or read later on. So, there is a lot of explaining and talking about a rule before it is put into effect and there is a short time period where I am more leniant towards giving out consequences until the rule is well known.
I have really liked having our rule board for the simplicity of knowing what is expected. It has been a nice addition to our home culture.